Duchess – the Snuggle side kick.

Today, we painfully said good bye to Duchess (our Lhasa Apso). What a rude shock! No preparations, no warnings, no symptoms… one minute, you were up and the next minute, fighting for life and boom…. it happened.

This is shocking and i am still struggling to come to terms with the fact that i’ll not have my snuggle side kick waiting to welcome me once i walk in or jostling for remains from my plate at meal time. It’s hard, very hard but we will get past this.

Duchy Boo!

All i know is no one prepared me to understand when a dog passes, it feels like a human has died. Dogs are like humans. We are comforted we gave you the best life you deserved while you were here with us.

I wish there was something i could have done differently to halt the pangs of death but in this moment, staring at the newly stocked cans of food, your beddings and leech, i wipe my tears, hopeful you’re in a better place and like Mikayla said, “till we meet in heaven, keep serving cute face like you always do – No more deaths again”.

Forever in our heart – OluwaDuchess B (August 2020 – Jan 2022)!


Beauty Basics: Makeup Essentials for Beginners

Hello, it’s been a minute.

Let’s dive in. While you may be ready to start dipping your new brushes into a box of shadows and gels, “hol’up” before you dive into the deep end, let this write up be a guide to the ultimate makeup essentials for beginners

FOUNDATION: prepping the face is an important step. You must start with a clean canvas, bare face. After you’ve prepped your skin, foundation is your first step. To avoid the dreaded “cakey” look, we recommend you apply foundation using a beauty sponge, it absorbs product, allowing you to gradually add or take out excess product

Maybelline Super stay Foundation.

Brow Pencils /Gels – any beginner can start filling in their brows using a brow gel or a powder shadow but to be safe, you can try your hands on the ever so cheap “Davis pencil”.

Karate Gel liner

Concealers: This is a must-have staple in your beauty routine, as it wipes off “evident crimes” committed and also hides a whole lot. While this is an excellent “must have”, it may be the trickiest makeup essential for beginners to master appropriately.

LA Pro Concealer

Eyeliners: this is an absolute essential. This can easily take any makeup look from 0 to 100 in a minute. Go with a pencil eyeliner for yourself waterline and any other kind of liner for you lids. Pencils are usually not my preference for my lids.

Mascara: definitely an underrated product but highly recommended. Ladies, lengthen those lashes with some mascara. Not even the most novice of makeup beginners can fumble with this one.


Eyeshadow brush:
this is the staple for applying powder loosely on the lid.

Smudge brush: this brush is usually packed together with more bristles to apply a heavier amount of product. Look for a dome shape the size of a pencil eraser to provide more application control.

Blending brush: this gives the option to apply a soft amount of color in the crease and/or buff the shadow above the crease.

Powder brush- used for applying powder over your foundation.

Lippies – oh these are my favorites. From matte to satin to velvet to glossy finish. Even a teenager knows to apply some balm on the lips.

Eyeshadows – These are quite tricky but once you get a hang of it, you’ll come to love it

Jaclyn Hill eyeshadow pallete

There are a few more essentials like lip balm, primer, setting sprays, Contour Kit, glow kit but the above items are things you need to kick start your journey….

I’ll be in my comments, let me know what items you feel are make up essentials to you.


Shally Benson


Friendships and Association!

I have a friend who ALWAYS sees the best in people . Like, how does this even happen, always choosing to see and speak of the rights and not the wrong.
Oh, this attribute was instrumental to my steadfastness in Christ as far back as 2005. Little wonder I found myself always by her side in fellowship back then and I have chosen to deliberately walk through life with her as my covenant sister.

Indeed, friendships and association are instrumental to our salvation walk and work. It is important that we choose carefully those we call friends. In the past I used to have trouble choosing friends especially because I couldn’t be bothered but I guess I’m now deliberate (more like I assess my friendships/associations and clearly define the union in order to manage expectations). That being said, Its not enough to have friends whom we draw from always, balance is key, we should also have friends who can draw from our well too…. Who will mention your name when writing their Salvation story?

So Morolade, while you unknowingly invested in me, I could very well look back now and say I am trying my possible best to also invest in people (I can bet she won’t get to see this post till after a week so shock me😂).

Christ in us, the hope of glory!
Shallybenson 🙏.


Free like a bird!

With God doing all of this for me, who am I to condemn myself when Christ has liberated me. 

I had a healthy conversation this morning on my way to work. Yes, Grace is available,  yes God has redeemed us but we have a part to work out our salvation.

I am grateful I belong to this generation… I am the redeemed of the Lord. The righteousness of Christ. The star of the heaven for the multitude. I am God’s pride!

But in our time something new has been added. What Moses and the prophets witnessed to all those years has happened. The God-setting-things-right that we read about has become Jesus-setting-things-right for us. And not only for us, but for everyone who believes in him. For there is no difference between us and them in this. Since we’ve compiled this long and sorry record as sinners (both us and them) and proved that we are utterly incapable of living the glorious lives God wills for us, God did it for us. Out of sheer generosity he put us in right standing with himself. A pure gift. He got us out of the mess we’re in and restored us to where he always wanted us to be. And he did it by means of Jesus Christ.
Romans 3:23‭-‬24 

Thank you for reading, have a beautiful week.



Giving back to the society that built me

Hello Peeps, i was on a project for a while and when i was over and done i felt a little unhappy, not because i did not do it well but because i would not be actively involved in the project again as i have moved on to other projects.

Through last year, i was in charge of charity and sponsorships at work and this helped me to discover my passion and love to help my society. Few months back, i shared a story of visiting an Orphanage, if  you missed it- here is the link-

Just few weeks back again, i was involved in the painting of a round about that was already in a “things fall apart” state. Staff of my organisation had to volunteer to do the painting ourselves, not because we couldnt outsource to a company to handle for us but the joy of doing it ourselves was what we wanted.

below are pictures of me and my colleagues giving back to our society:


I had fun peeps and trust me if you were in my shoes you would have enjoyed every moment.


Yaaaay, Its exactly one year today!

It was just like an unending phase of my life that took like forever to end. Today makes it a year i finished youth service. Yeah, i know to some its not worth reflecting about but trust me evry day after we finally removed head gear, i waited patiently for one year post NYSC.

There were fears as at the time of passing out but i will be verycorrect to say that i have been very well favoured by God in one year. I remember my first day to camp vividly-i had to “jagamu”(the camp commandant’s way of making us slam our butts on the ground)lol… It was as though 3weeks should end at that very point. I also remember days of sleeping under cold rain and all. How could i ever forget my smart way of snicking to the OBS to escape punishment…lol…little did i know that the greatest was still going to come my way in Kogi.

Arriving at my place of primary assignment to hear that i was to be paid N500/per month was the worst moment of the whole year, my tears knew no bound as they srolled down my cheeks in total awe of how i was to serve my country for N500, i immediately opted for a no-payment term but was turned down.

Mehn, some girls really made my year. I never will forget the ever amiable Peace Akpan, Cheerful Seyi Arije, Piquant Sewande Amusu, Ever Mischevious Mercy Ominuta,Alarming Biola Kareem, Gentle but skilful Funmi Odebode, Motherly Sister Banks,Calm Anu Ogundipe amongst others.

On graduation from University, my friend once told me that “the friends you will end up keeping so closely are the once you meet at youth service”, though i never believed but time and chance proved that statement to be true. I still have friends from all phases of my life and i keep them close due to a nursery school rhyme i learnt that says :

“make new friends  but keep the old,cause one is silver and the other is gold”

I celebrate today knowing well that the best is yet to come…*winks*




Where I am!

I really can not place the exact feeling right now but one thing I am sure of is that-its been a while i felt this way.

Maybe I have been ridiculously shut up but I am sure not going to let this pass away just like that because I think it has come to stay.

I might possibly be saying a goodbye to this phase of my life soon (though not too sure) but one thing I am so sure of is that i intend to enjoy every bit of it and be positive too.

Ever wondered how well we plan so well and yet not meet up with our prerequisites? That is just where I am now but against all odds I am just going for it.

See you when the manifestations are in place…


Deadly wreckage in Governance

Bureaucracy rules!

Sitting on this possible bed bug infested chair in a pigs den of a chairman’s office, I wonder where exactly we missed it as a nation.
Bureaucracy has suddenly turned the order of the day as everyone wants to feel important even when they are irrelevant. As M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ friend – Bie will say “anything that is unrelated to elephant is irrelephant” lol.
Until Nigerians take a bold step to evacuate this old illiterates that occupy positions and have failed to upgrade their O.S as times are changing,i fear we might never make a headway.
Everywhere you turn to in parastatals,what is obtainable now is excessive multiplication of, and concentration of power.
‎​I ‎​A̶̲̥̅♏ tired of a nation where the leaders do not care if the “led” are well led.
Irrespective of all that ‎​I see daily, i still won’t fail to remember that there will always ßξ joy in d morning.

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Weekend is ending!

I really used to love weekends because after any weekend is a Monday but now the feeling has changed. Even though i am loving my present job but i feel there is a problem somewhere*sighs*.
Monday comes again and the next thing my heart pants for is Friday.
Still pushing on though till i get to that very place of entire fulfilment.
Have a pleasant week people!

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When he says it; He means it!

With time I have come to realise that when a guy says “I love you”, he means it. I know now you are thinking this must really be a stupid assumption but trust me,at the point or moment he says it, he means every single damn word in that simple sentence.

I really can not tell maybe it is because of their kinda make-up but they really get moved by what they see and want. I think it is safer to say they are moved by sight.

Love truly is both an action and a feeling which can either be temporal or permanent. Every person is therefore capable of great love whether you are white or black.

So if you find a guy that is confident enough to whisper it into your ears and say it to your face each passing day, Aint you lucky? Until we get to a point of realising that LOVE can be lost, We might never appreciate it even when it stares at us.

Keep loving and believing he loves you…


Shally cares!