Friendships and Association!

I have a friend who ALWAYS sees the best in people . Like, how does this even happen, always choosing to see and speak of the rights and not the wrong.
Oh, this attribute was instrumental to my steadfastness in Christ as far back as 2005. Little wonder I found myself always by her side in fellowship back then and I have chosen to deliberately walk through life with her as my covenant sister.

Indeed, friendships and association are instrumental to our salvation walk and work. It is important that we choose carefully those we call friends. In the past I used to have trouble choosing friends especially because I couldn’t be bothered but I guess I’m now deliberate (more like I assess my friendships/associations and clearly define the union in order to manage expectations). That being said, Its not enough to have friends whom we draw from always, balance is key, we should also have friends who can draw from our well too…. Who will mention your name when writing their Salvation story?

So Morolade, while you unknowingly invested in me, I could very well look back now and say I am trying my possible best to also invest in people (I can bet she won’t get to see this post till after a week so shock me😂).

Christ in us, the hope of glory!
Shallybenson 🙏.

Free like a bird!

With God doing all of this for me, who am I to condemn myself when Christ has liberated me. 

I had a healthy conversation this morning on my way to work. Yes, Grace is available,  yes God has redeemed us but we have a part to work out our salvation.

I am grateful I belong to this generation… I am the redeemed of the Lord. The righteousness of Christ. The star of the heaven for the multitude. I am God’s pride!

But in our time something new has been added. What Moses and the prophets witnessed to all those years has happened. The God-setting-things-right that we read about has become Jesus-setting-things-right for us. And not only for us, but for everyone who believes in him. For there is no difference between us and them in this. Since we’ve compiled this long and sorry record as sinners (both us and them) and proved that we are utterly incapable of living the glorious lives God wills for us, God did it for us. Out of sheer generosity he put us in right standing with himself. A pure gift. He got us out of the mess we’re in and restored us to where he always wanted us to be. And he did it by means of Jesus Christ.
Romans 3:23‭-‬24 

Thank you for reading, have a beautiful week.
Xoxo

ShallyBenson

Giving back to the society that built me

Hello Peeps, i was on a project for a while and when i was over and done i felt a little unhappy, not because i did not do it well but because i would not be actively involved in the project again as i have moved on to other projects.

Through last year, i was in charge of charity and sponsorships at work and this helped me to discover my passion and love to help my society. Few months back, i shared a story of visiting an Orphanage, if  you missed it- here is the link- https://shalewaalli.wordpress.com/2011/07/04/reflections

Just few weeks back again, i was involved in the painting of a round about that was already in a “things fall apart” state. Staff of my organisation had to volunteer to do the painting ourselves, not because we couldnt outsource to a company to handle for us but the joy of doing it ourselves was what we wanted.

below are pictures of me and my colleagues giving back to our society:

 

I had fun peeps and trust me if you were in my shoes you would have enjoyed every moment.

Yaaaay, Its exactly one year today!

It was just like an unending phase of my life that took like forever to end. Today makes it a year i finished youth service. Yeah, i know to some its not worth reflecting about but trust me evry day after we finally removed head gear, i waited patiently for one year post NYSC.

There were fears as at the time of passing out but i will be verycorrect to say that i have been very well favoured by God in one year. I remember my first day to camp vividly-i had to “jagamu”(the camp commandant’s way of making us slam our butts on the ground)lol… It was as though 3weeks should end at that very point. I also remember days of sleeping under cold rain and all. How could i ever forget my smart way of snicking to the OBS to escape punishment…lol…little did i know that the greatest was still going to come my way in Kogi.

Arriving at my place of primary assignment to hear that i was to be paid N500/per month was the worst moment of the whole year, my tears knew no bound as they srolled down my cheeks in total awe of how i was to serve my country for N500, i immediately opted for a no-payment term but was turned down.

Mehn, some girls really made my year. I never will forget the ever amiable Peace Akpan, Cheerful Seyi Arije, Piquant Sewande Amusu, Ever Mischevious Mercy Ominuta,Alarming Biola Kareem, Gentle but skilful Funmi Odebode, Motherly Sister Banks,Calm Anu Ogundipe amongst others.

On graduation from University, my friend once told me that “the friends you will end up keeping so closely are the once you meet at youth service”, though i never believed but time and chance proved that statement to be true. I still have friends from all phases of my life and i keep them close due to a nursery school rhyme i learnt that says :

“make new friends  but keep the old,cause one is silver and the other is gold”

I celebrate today knowing well that the best is yet to come…*winks*

 

 

Where I am!

I really can not place the exact feeling right now but one thing I am sure of is that-its been a while i felt this way.

Maybe I have been ridiculously shut up but I am sure not going to let this pass away just like that because I think it has come to stay.

I might possibly be saying a goodbye to this phase of my life soon (though not too sure) but one thing I am so sure of is that i intend to enjoy every bit of it and be positive too.

Ever wondered how well we plan so well and yet not meet up with our prerequisites? That is just where I am now but against all odds I am just going for it.

See you when the manifestations are in place…

Deadly wreckage in Governance

Bureaucracy rules!

Sitting on this possible bed bug infested chair in a pigs den of a chairman’s office, I wonder where exactly we missed it as a nation.
Bureaucracy has suddenly turned the order of the day as everyone wants to feel important even when they are irrelevant. As M̶̲̥̅γ̲̣̣̥ friend – Bie will say “anything that is unrelated to elephant is irrelephant” lol.
Until Nigerians take a bold step to evacuate this old illiterates that occupy positions and have failed to upgrade their O.S as times are changing,i fear we might never make a headway.
Everywhere you turn to in parastatals,what is obtainable now is excessive multiplication of, and concentration of power.
‎​I ‎​A̶̲̥̅♏ tired of a nation where the leaders do not care if the “led” are well led.
Irrespective of all that ‎​I see daily, i still won’t fail to remember that there will always ßξ joy in d morning.

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Weekend is ending!

I really used to love weekends because after any weekend is a Monday but now the feeling has changed. Even though i am loving my present job but i feel there is a problem somewhere*sighs*.
Monday comes again and the next thing my heart pants for is Friday.
Still pushing on though till i get to that very place of entire fulfilment.
Chacha!
Have a pleasant week people!

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When he says it; He means it!

With time I have come to realise that when a guy says “I love you”, he means it. I know now you are thinking this must really be a stupid assumption but trust me,at the point or moment he says it, he means every single damn word in that simple sentence.

I really can not tell maybe it is because of their kinda make-up but they really get moved by what they see and want. I think it is safer to say they are moved by sight.

Love truly is both an action and a feeling which can either be temporal or permanent. Every person is therefore capable of great love whether you are white or black.

So if you find a guy that is confident enough to whisper it into your ears and say it to your face each passing day, Aint you lucky? Until we get to a point of realising that LOVE can be lost, We might never appreciate it even when it stares at us.

Keep loving and believing he loves you…

 

Shally cares!

External Grooming!

I learnt a lot of things few days back and I feel you – I mean the female folks should learn from it too. Nothing new but this is just a reminder.

Cleaniness is actually the paramount thing everyone should imbibe especially in the kitchen as this is the first measure to keeping the roaches away from your home.

Bathing:Daily bath routine should not just be “morning” only or “morning and night”, as ladies its cool you take your bath as many times as possible and do not go without roll on, perspirant,deodorant,body sprays, perfume,body gel…….

Brushing: This is another vital thing that we often take for granted, please always brush your tongue when brushing and the power of Mouthwash can not be over emphasized.

Shave regularly! This saves us from unnecessary sweating and all

Please watch ur outfit and endeavour to match right colours for right outings, so also, Iron your clothes from the back side as this helps in easing of the stress of ironing from the right side and leaving iron marks on your clothes.

When wearing white, no matter the lining, make do with a dark inner wear so what is private can remain private and not turn public.

Never wear what makes you uncomfortable especially ‘shoes’ ‘cos its not ideal or ladylike to wear shoes and pull your legs out intermittently and when under pressure, avoid the heels.

Learn to walk and raise your legs, do not shuffle your legs, take care of your feet by soaking in warm water at least once a week

Most importantly,get a good mirror and make sure you love what you see before leaving the house.

Learn to speak gently and softly,it works like magic. Use words like ‘sorry’ and ‘Thank you’ often.

Above all,Smile always.

Shally loves.

Reflections

Its the second half of the year already and I have come to realise that I have not done badly with myself this year only that I have been a little hard.
Just few days ago, I was taking aback when I had to visit and party with Orphans.I got to realise how people in the pursuit of a better life (which they end up not getting) bring helpless children to the world and then abandon them to fate to take its course.
Even though I had to fight back tears from rolling,joy filled the hearts of these children as they were in high spirit and  were so grateful to be alive.
Atimes we do not know what we have till we lose them but do we have to wait till we actually lose them?
Like I always say,’words are few but thoughts are deep’-Friends,do all you can to stay positive while you are alive because you won’t live forever.

I am proud to be a friend of the community.

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